How to work with a Perfectionistic Leader
A little while ago, I wrote a blog post on The Peril of Perfectionism. You can check it out here.
But what about if you are working for a perfectionistic leader?
Here's a tip: submissiveness is not the answer. But as much as you'd like to, resist the urge to express resentment, defiance or disrespect. Perfectionists tend not to respond well to that kind of stuff. It will likely worsen your relationship and cause irreparable damage.
Instead, a better approach to enhance your relationship might be to demonstrate your commitment to excellence by telling your boss that you, too, value quality and integrity. You see, perfectionistic leaders value unity, knowing it's key to attaining excellence. They want to be understood and have their core values appreciated.
In her book, The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace, author Beatrice Chestnut PhD suggests that whilst you may disagree on specific methods, work toward conveying your opinions and finding workable compromises.
That might appear a little easier said than done. But don't fear, I have some ideas for you.
When this topic comes up with my coaching clients, I share these seven steps:
Emphasize common goals, so your boss values your partnership enough to address disagreements willingly.
Discuss differences in rational, calm and respectful ways.
Help your boss see alternative paths to goals. Outline pros and cons to discover why your leader prefers one approach to another.
Be willing to critique your own ideas, as well. Detail-oriented leaders value input when they're guided to objective conclusions.
Work methodically, so that clear thinking perfectionists are more likely to be on your wavelength.
Find ways to express appreciation for your boss's willingness to solve problems and make decisions jointly.
Be accountable and willing to apologise for mistakes or delays, which builds trust and prevents judgmental responses.
Perfectionistic leaders tend to appreciate positive but honest feedback when their teams are actively pursuing their goals. You can support your boss's coveted processes and procedures while offering additional ideas. Let your boss see you as a consistently positive and trustworthy influencer. Doing so may help to reduce any micromanagement that you might be experiencing.
When perfectionistic leaders accept alternate strategies, their grip on black-and-white thinking may loosen. They may come to realise that success doesn't require perfection or a breakneck work pace. Their leadership style may evolve as they learn that processes benefit from some give-and-take.
What do you think? What steps have you taken? I’d love to hear from you. I can be reached here and on LinkedIn.
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